Parenting

Why Smile?

“Your smile can save a distressed soul, gladden a sad heart, or heal a broken spirit. Have a blessed day.”

— Unknown quotes —

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Here, at some traffic light, there are some Crossing Guards who are stand by to help people or bicycle to cross the street.

Well, it’s look a simple job but it is not!
They will need to stand up for  long hours either under the sun or in the raining time.
We take car everyday, so we will never cross the street and meet them.

There is one Crossing Guard that we always meet in the morning and we decide to try our best to give him smile when we pass through him.
Kids will waive hands to him too!

You know what? He really looks happy and smile.

This remind me to one old man who does cleaning on our home block at Singapore.

Since JJ first time started to go to school ( JJ was around 2.5 years old) , TT and I always wait him on the same place every day to pick him up from the school bus. TT was still around 10 months old during that time. And most of the time we will meet this uncle when he sat down there and took a rest.

This uncle will always smile and happily called TT and most of the time TT will smile to him.
When JJ arrived and before we came back to the house kids will say bye bye to this uncle.

It continued until TT started his school and until last year before we moved here. It had been around 4 years since the first time we met this uncle. My husband and I will always walked with our kids go to the MRT Station in the morning (go to school).
Though we will not meet this uncle everyday but, every time we met this uncle, this uncle was so happy!

He will say “Good morning, my little friends!”

And kids will answer him, ” Good morning, uncle!”

Not only that uncle who was happy but also our kids!

And our kids will not only give smile to this uncle but also to another uncle who also clean our block and to the taxi driver, waitress, bus driver, etc.

Sometime we thought that those people looks so fierce, not friendly, etc. But why don’t we are the one who start smile to them? Greet them. It will make their day!

Smile to them, they need it. They never ask for it, but they need it and they will be very grateful when some one greet them and smile to them.

“Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day”.

 ~by H. Jackson Brown, Jr. ~

 

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— Don’t Stop, Keep Trying —

“Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It’s OK to fail. If you’re not failing, you’re not growing.” – H. Stanley Judd – 

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Well, it is not easy when we have to accept the reality that we fail on something.

I have always told my kids that it is ok if you fail on something, it is not the end of everything. I even wrote a post on 2012 about this. Please refer to my old post: Learn From Your Failures.

I am not new on driving a car. I had my experience driving car in Indonesia and Australia. But I have never drive any cars since we moved to Singapore 9 years ago. Singapore has a very good transportation system that make me feel that I don’t need to drive there. I even never renew my driving license since year 2009. Until one day, my husband got transfer to USA and we move here.

Here I am and I need car here. I need to drive my kids to school and  buy groceries. Well, I need to drive but I will  need to take both written driving test and Behind the Wheels driving test. I passed my written test and I got a permit to drive but with someone to accompany me until I pass my behind the wheels driving test.

There are many new rules that I need to learn since it is different from Indonesia and Australia, and some more the driver is on the left side here and we will need to drive on the right side of the road. It is the biggest different. Well I have to adapt.

It was the time that I need to take behind the wheels driving test and I was nervous. I always nervous when I need to do any TEST. I don’t like TEST 😀

And I did two mistakes on the test and it might be two serious mistakes so that the examiner asked me to go back to the DMV straight away and I failed.

Well, I was so sad and my husband kept encourage me. I was still sad though but I know that I need to hang on there 🙂 some of my friends encouraged me as well. When the kids came back from school, they knew that I fail on my driving test and they made my day 😀

JJ asked me what mistake that I made 😀 and he gave me some advices how to drive better next time 😀

While TT tried to made me smile with his funny acts.

My husband told me that it is good that I fail so that kids also can learn how to deal with failure. And I have the sample of failure that they aware that it happened to me.

On the church, one of our friend who heard about my failure in behind the wheels driving test, came to me and offer his help to accompany me practicing my driving while my husband in his office. I really appreciate it. And I always what he said to me, “Hang on there, Yulia, you can do it!”

Instead of staying in my sadness and disappointment, I choose to cheer up!

I did my second test and Thanks God, I passed. Now that I can help my husband, driving kids to school, do my own groceries, and have my MeTime 😀

Well, this is not the first time I fail on something. I share about this because this was the recent failure that I have. Before, I faced so many failure. If I can say, my failure on my driving test is the small one. I have ever failed on relationship, on my job, on my study, etc. But I know that I should not leave in my past and have to move on. Well, I still hang on there because I am not alone. I went through my life which is up and down together with my God who give me strength and together with my husband, my kids and people surround me who always love and encourage me.

It’s okay to fail, you always can try it again. It is your choice to give up or hang on there and keep trying. Thanks God that I didn’t give up and try it again.

Trying to see on the positive side of our failures is the best thing to do.

What we can learn from our failure:

  1. Knowing that failure can make us be more careful and try not to do the same mistake.
  2. Learning how to hang on there and not give up so easily.
  3. Knowing that some people really there to support us.
  4. Failure will teach us not to give up easily.
  5. You are prepared to be stronger for the next problem / failures.

Please feel free to add some more points for what we can learn from our failure on the comment below.

Same for you… If you are facing any problems or you are failing on something and you feel that you are going to give up, Please Don’t! Hang on there! Keep Trying! 

Quotes from my husband:  

“It’s okay to fail. If you never fail, you’ll never learn”

Kids and The Library

Finally, here we are! The Library!

It’s been sometime since we moved here, kids has  been asking us to bring them to the library.

That’s one of kids’ favorite place. Books, activity and audio! This is the first time we had chance to go to the public library here.. This is the most beautiful library that I have ever visited. So big, so clean and so comfortable. They even have a little playground with books theme. Kids can learn how to use computer as well inside this library. They provide very good computer applications that kids can learn a lot from those computers. They also provide some education activities and toys for kids.

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While JJ sticked with the computer, TT was busy exploring everything in this library… He read book, he played a while in the playground and play other things inside the library. But at the end JJ left the computer station and started to find some books too! Well, both of them really enjoyed to be in this Library.

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Other than them, not forgetting the daddy who is also a book lover 😀 Both kids love books… Where do they get it from? Well not from me.. From their daddy for sure 😀

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It is always good to encourage our kids to love reading books. And they also have their little library corner in their room. Moreover, in JJ’s school, one of the daily homework is reading log for 10 minutes and kids can choose their own books. Since then, JJ loves to read book more than before, and so does his little brother.

Library is one of many good places for our kids to spend their time. Love this library so much and will come back here for sure!!!

“Libraries allow children to ask questions about the world and find the answers. And the wonderful thing is that once a child learns to use a library, the doors to learning are always open.” – Laura Bush –

Teachers….. You will never be forgotten….

Happy teachers' day

Early this year, when I came back to my hometown, I purposely visited my Kindergarten School and my Primary School in my hometown. Not much changing on the building and the class rooms. But I only met two Primary School teachers. One of them is my favorite teacher. She didn’t recall me at the first but then she started to remember me hahahah How? I am not that kind of quite student………. Active? yeah hahaha…

Surprisingly, when I visited my kindergarten school, expected all my teachers will not be there anymore because it was more than 30 years ago. They supposed retired already. And one of the teacher told me that there is still one teacher who is still teaching since my years time in this kindergarten until now. But she was off that day and out of town for training, so that I have no chance to meet her.

I clearly remember all my teachers’ name because they are important for me. They are good teachers. I really glad that I was before being taught by them in school.

Same applies to my kids. They are still in their kindergarten years now. It was not easy that they had to started their school years earlier than mine last time. Though it is for fun but I believe it is not easy for them especially during the pre-nursery and nursery years. They even had to took the school bus. But I am glad that so far so good. Why? I believe that their teachers have a very important role to make my kids love to go to school.

Sometime they will ask “Why it is not Monday yet” 😀

Teachers have very important role for our kids. Including our Chinese tuition teachers, Sunday School teachers, Music teachers, Swimming Coach, etc.

What I learn as a parent then?

  • Trust teachers to ‘educate’ our kids.
  • Support teachers in any tasks that they give to our kids
  • Build a good relationship with teachers

Until now, we  even still keep in touch with my sons’ pre-nursery teacher. She is a very good teachers and both my kids were under her care. But we really feel grateful that our kids are under very good teachers in their school years so far.

We Just came back from long holiday and it was a long flight. My plan was to let them go back to school a day after they came back home. And it was just nice on the Teacher’s Day celebration at school.

But that is not what they want. They want to go to school once they come back. Miss their friends? Of course! But they also miss their teachers.

Yes… they love to go to school…. and one more thing…….. they love and enjoy doing their homework. So far… there is no complaint from them about their homework. Some time they even ask more and I have bought some activity books for them (they choose those books them selves).

Teachers have very important roles to make our kids love their school. And I am so happy that my kids have their best teachers so far.

Happy Teacher’s Day to all teachers all over the world 🙂

“Teachers who love teaching, teach children to love learning.”                                 – Robert John Meehan

Two Little boys say about their Daddy!

I always tell my kids that they should be grateful as they have a very good daddy who always willing to spend time with them every day after his tiring day in his office. And I can see that the strong bonding between them.

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On this special occasion, I did a little interview to my two little kids 🙂
Mama: Do you love your daddy?
JJ: Yes!
Matt: Yes!
Mama: What do you like about your daddy?
JJ: Papa is the boss and Papa is so funny like a clown!
TT: He is the funny man, he looks like a clown and some more, Papa can do balance!
Mama: What do you like to play with your daddy?
JJ: Play fighting and Animal Kaiser
TT: Lego Star Wars, Ninja Go, Candy Crush, Showman, Animal Kaiser, Spiderman and Batman.
Mama: What will you buy for Papa on this Father’s day if you have some money?
JJ: Computer and Pen
TT: Shirt and Pencil
Mama: Anything that you want to say to Papa on this Father’s day?
JJ: Papa is the Super Papa!
TT: Papa is very cool!
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 We have something to give to the Daddy! 

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Note to the Daddy………..

Please always be wise saving your money in this coin bank so that we can have our next holiday trip 😀

Hi dads, all of you have an important role in shaping the character of your children and give your children a wonderful childhood for your kids!

“Walk With Me Daddy”

Walk alongside me, daddy
and hold my little hand.
I have so many things to learn
that I don’t yet understand.

Teach me things to keep me safe
from dangers every day.
Show me how to do my best
at home, at school, at play.

Every child needs a gentle hand
to guide them as they grow.
So walk alongside me, daddy –
We have a long way to go.

 Author: Helen Bush

Happy Father’s Day to all Daddy around the world.

“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong as the need for a father’s protection.”

 Sigmund Freud –

On this Mother’s Day

“I love being a mother. It has its ups and downs but there’s no better feeling than unconditional love from my children. “
(Unknown quotes)
kids and I
Mothers’ day…
People will start to talk about the love of mothers, unconditional love.
It is so true that Mothers’ love is the best and also unconditional love.
But on this year, I realize so many things.. Let me do some listings:
Mommy – Not a good chef.
Kids – Never complain
Mommy – Sometime lost patient
Kids – Never complain
Mommy – sometime pick up late from school
Kids – Complain sometime but never angry
Mommy – Happen before forget to come to school to watch their show
Kids – Never mind mama, next time don’t forget, okay
Mommy – Forget to prepare their crafts for school (Happened before)
Kids – It’s okay, I did other things in the class, mama.
Most of the time, they satisfy with what they have. Of course they want this and that, whatever their friends have, they also ask me to buy for them. And of course most of the time I also need to reject their request. But they are fine. Never nagging.
Recently, happened that I was too careless until TT got hurt on his finger. It was very bad, very painful, and he had to be brought to hospital with Ambulance and his finger needed to be stitched. When I said sorry to him because I was too careless, he answered me, ” IT’S OKAY, MAMA”
My tears all down, and some more, he was still able to smile at me even though he was in pain.
And on this mother day, I would like to share how I am so grateful having these two boys of mine, who always shower me with their unconditional love. All thanks to God.
They are not two perfect boys, but they are two amazing boys that God has given and entrusted to my husband and me, and we need to raise them properly, so that in each of their growth, they shall always glorify God.
As I am also not a perfect mommy, but I have my boys who always accept me as I am.
Happy Mothers’ day to all Mothers all around the world ^_^
“My sons love me no matter what, they make me smile, make me laugh, bring joy to my heart. When I need hugs and kisses from them, they will always be there. They really love me no matter what. ” 

~ PRAYER ~

“Prayer is as natural an expression of faith as breathing is of life.”

~ Jonathan Edwards  ~

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Ever since my two boys were still inside my tummy, both, my husband and I prayed together with our unborn babies…

When they were babies, we prayed together with them…

When they grow up become toddlers, slowly, we asked them to pray together with us and follow our prayer

Now they can pray by themselves and pray for others as well.

Teaching our kids how to pray is very important so they will understand that God always be there and listen to their prayer. That’s one of ways to talk to God.

Last night, JJ cannot sleep and I asked him why he cannot sleep. He told me that because he wanted the daddy to be in his room and sleep with him.  I told him that the daddy need to do something.
I asked JJ to pray and tell Jesus that he cannot sleep.

In the morning, he told me that he fell asleep after he prayed.

One day, after school, TT told me that his teacher’s leg is pain and he said that he want to pray for her before he sleep. It remind me to JJ when he was still at nursery class, he also once prayed for his teacher.

These are only few samples, now they love to pray.. Develop a good habit such as prayer is the good one.

Kids will learn and understand that they need to pray everyday, any time as they need air to breath.

They need to praise and glorify God through their prayers
They need to thanks to God for everything that they have
They need to  ask for forgiveness from God everyday
They need to learn how to pray and think for others
They also need to pray for themselves every day too ask for God’s guidance and wisdom.
and so on…

” To be a Christian without prayer is no more possible than to be alive without breathing.”
– Martin Luther King Jr –

Have you started it with your children? Would you like to share how you start teaching how to pray with your children?