Month: July 2013

The Anniversary of The Imperfect Couple

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” (-Fawn Weaver)

When I was young, I love to watch the romantic serial, which at the end, will happily ever after, meet their prince charming, meet their dream girls. The knot the ties and married. After that?

On the big day:

  • Man = Prince and Woman = Princes
  • Holly Matrimony
  • Party
  • Happiness
  • Pictures and Video, etc.

It’s just a beginning 😉 Long journey ahead………….


Under the same roof:

  • Two people with two different background
  • Two Imperfect persons stay together
  • Two people with two different habit
  • Two people with two different opinion
  • Two people with two different way of thinking, etc.

After A while: 

  • Joking and laugh
  • Angry and disappointed
  • Argument and quarrel
  • Give in and love, etc

Children Coming: 

  • Another commitment in time and money
  • House become merrier
  • Laughing, joking, happiness
  • Crying, quarrel, angry
  • Family time

Time flies so fast………………………………………………

7 years ago, one imperfect man met one imperfect woman. They know that both of them are imperfect, but LOVE make them want to be together.

Some people told me that how lucky I am that I have a very happy marriage and family.

I want you to know that our marriage is the same as others. Of course, our marriage is full of happiness, laugh and love, however, we also encounter some problems, big and small. We also have arguments, big and small. We also quarrel because of big or small problems. We also have to adjust towards each others.

My husband and I believe that only God’s love that ties us become one until now. Though so many problems that we have been through it, but we are still together, with our weakness and imperfectness. There is love.

Forgive and forgive and forgive, that what we need in our marriage. Forgiveness also has an important role in our marriage. Acceptance is also another one. And also LOVE towards each other. However, the most important here is the existence of God’s love.

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” (-Ruth Bell Graham)

We went through good and bad, happiness and sadness all together.  Not easy though. But together with God, we can go through all.

Imperfectness that we both have, might have made this family imperfect, however, God’s plan is always perfect 🙂

This marriage and this family has been through it all because God loves this marriage and this family.

‘In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” (Eva Burrows quotes)

And Finally, 1 + 1 become 4.


Regardless of my imperfect marriage and imperfect family, I am happy to have my husband and my sons in my life 🙂

Thanks God for our 7th years wedding anniversary. We need God’s grace and roles more and more for our marriage journey ahead

Remember, there is no perfect married because marriage involve two imperfect people. And problem in marriage will always be there to color our marriage. Don’t let the problem stopping us to love our marriage and family. One thing to remember to always involve God in our marriage and we will go through all together. Just to know that God’s plan for us is always perfect 🙂 

Hope this post will bless other couples.

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” – (Dave Meurer)