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The Anniversary of The Imperfect Couple

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” (-Fawn Weaver)

When I was young, I love to watch the romantic serial, which at the end, will happily ever after, meet their prince charming, meet their dream girls. The knot the ties and married. After that?

On the big day:

  • Man = Prince and Woman = Princes
  • Holly Matrimony
  • Party
  • Happiness
  • Pictures and Video, etc.

It’s just a beginning 😉 Long journey ahead………….

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Under the same roof:

  • Two people with two different background
  • Two Imperfect persons stay together
  • Two people with two different habit
  • Two people with two different opinion
  • Two people with two different way of thinking, etc.

After A while: 

  • Joking and laugh
  • Angry and disappointed
  • Argument and quarrel
  • Give in and love, etc

Children Coming: 

  • Another commitment in time and money
  • House become merrier
  • Laughing, joking, happiness
  • Crying, quarrel, angry
  • Family time

Time flies so fast………………………………………………

7 years ago, one imperfect man met one imperfect woman. They know that both of them are imperfect, but LOVE make them want to be together.

Some people told me that how lucky I am that I have a very happy marriage and family.

I want you to know that our marriage is the same as others. Of course, our marriage is full of happiness, laugh and love, however, we also encounter some problems, big and small. We also have arguments, big and small. We also quarrel because of big or small problems. We also have to adjust towards each others.

My husband and I believe that only God’s love that ties us become one until now. Though so many problems that we have been through it, but we are still together, with our weakness and imperfectness. There is love.

Forgive and forgive and forgive, that what we need in our marriage. Forgiveness also has an important role in our marriage. Acceptance is also another one. And also LOVE towards each other. However, the most important here is the existence of God’s love.

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” (-Ruth Bell Graham)

We went through good and bad, happiness and sadness all together.  Not easy though. But together with God, we can go through all.

Imperfectness that we both have, might have made this family imperfect, however, God’s plan is always perfect 🙂

This marriage and this family has been through it all because God loves this marriage and this family.

‘In family life, love is the oil that eases friction, the cement that binds closer together, and the music that brings harmony.” (Eva Burrows quotes)

And Finally, 1 + 1 become 4.

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Regardless of my imperfect marriage and imperfect family, I am happy to have my husband and my sons in my life 🙂

Thanks God for our 7th years wedding anniversary. We need God’s grace and roles more and more for our marriage journey ahead

Remember, there is no perfect married because marriage involve two imperfect people. And problem in marriage will always be there to color our marriage. Don’t let the problem stopping us to love our marriage and family. One thing to remember to always involve God in our marriage and we will go through all together. Just to know that God’s plan for us is always perfect 🙂 

Hope this post will bless other couples.

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” – (Dave Meurer)

 

 

1st, Effort. Followed by result

Thinking to re-blog this post

My Life is My Rainbow

My husband always tell me that the most important is the effort not the result. He applies it not only to my kids but also to me. Honestly, sometime I forget and want the best result in everything. But, again and again, I am reminded by what my husband said.

I have to always remember that I should not require the best result from my sons, but I should see from another point of view, it is their efforts.

I talked to one of my friend, I can say that she is my senior 🙂 She has three children. Her first and second daughter are in High School and last level of Primary School. The youngest one is JJ’s friend. She told me that she never demand the best result from her second daughter though her second daughter is a smart girl. But she will see whether her second daughter…

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Make Your Own Story

ONE DAY………………

I have been idle for last few months and now I am so happy that I can come back writing on my blog.

Last few months, I have some problem with my time management, but I am glad that now is ok 🙂

Well, if you work as an accountant, you should know what is MYOB. If you like to eat sandwich and you stay at Australia, most probably you know what is Mr. Bird’s MYO.

Make your own… You also can encourage your children to do MYOS. Make your own Story 😀

Recently, we make a story telling to JJ and TT without the story book. Our purpose is to encourage them to do the same as we do. No story book does not mean No story. They will listen carefully and there will be their turn to do the story telling. They enjoy it! They cannot wait to take their turn!

As I mentioned on my previous post, that I read the story to both my kids since they were baby, and they really like story telling until now. JJ can read the story book already. And he really happy when we bring him to the book shop or library. Though TT still cannot read yet but he also like to go to the book shop or library. JJ and TT’s teachers told me that both of them are very attentive in listening on the story.

Once, JJ’s teacher told me that JJ is very good in story telling (Make his own story). I am so proud of him. Every time JJ makes his own story, TT will start to follow what he does. TT has started to make his own story already.

Let me share with you one of the stories of JJ (4 years old plus) and also one of the stories of TT (coming to be 3 years old), though it is only a short stories but we are glad with their efforts 🙂

JJ:

He gave the tittle of his story: The Boy and The Tiger

“One day, the boy is playing outside. His mother is cooking. The tiger is coming. The boy is running and the mother saves the boy and brings him home. The End”

TT:

He didn’t give and tittle to his story 🙂

“One day, the boy doesn’t like to eat strawberries. He eats apple. Hmmmm… Nice…

The End”

Those two stories are very simple, but they use their imagination to make their own stories and they were very happy when they have us as their audiences. We applauded and said ” Nice Story!” as a reward for their efforts after listening to their stories. It is to encourage them to make some more new stories.

I heard from some of my friends, they also do the story telling to their kids. Yes, we need to do it. It will build their own imagination and creativity to make their own story. And they will ask us to sit down and listen to their story just like what JJ and TT do.

I believe that some of you might have the same experience as mine. It would be great if you are willing to share with us here 🙂