Most of kids want to become THE WINNER. Of course JJ and TT always want to become the winner.
Last time JJ cannot accept if he lose from his brother. He has learnt a lot since he has his little brother. Now he learns to accept when he lost. And his daddy always remind him with this word “Learn from your failures”.
Now that whenever TT fails on doing something JJ will say “Learn from your failures”. But it is not easy for TT to accept, and he always says that he wants to be the winner. I explained to TT that all of us will not always be the winner. Sometime we can be failed but at least we had tried our best and should never give up when we fail. I told him about how I lost from the singing competition when I was on the Primary school. JJ started to remind TT that when they played basketball, JJ lost and TT won the game, but JJ was ok and accepted it.
I think it will need sometime for TT to accept that all people will not always be the winner. It also happened to JJ last time. But JJ can accept that he will not always be the winner and he should learn from his failures. Never give up.
Especially, we as a parent, we should not push our kids to always become the winner. Just precaution that we might make them stress when they fail or cannot fulfill our wishes and their own wishes. Let our kids know that winning is not everything, but what they can learn from their failures is more important.
LEARN FROM YOUR FAILURES… Now become a popular word among my kids.
But I know that some parents may have different way of thinking… Please do share with us :)