“Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t waste energy trying to cover up failure. Learn from your failures and go on to the next challenge. It’s OK to fail. If you’re not failing, you’re not growing.” – H. Stanley Judd -
Well, it is not easy when we have to accept the reality that we fail on something.
I have always told my kids that it is ok if you fail on something, it is not the end of everything. I even wrote a post on 2012 about this. Please refer to my old post: Learn From Your Failures.
I am not new on driving a car. I had my experience driving car in Indonesia and Australia. But I have never drive any cars since we moved to Singapore 9 years ago. Singapore has a very good transportation system that make me feel that I don’t need to drive there. I even never renew my driving license since year 2009. Until one day, my husband got transfer to USA and we move here.
Here I am and I need car here. I need to drive my kids to school and buy groceries. Well, I need to drive but I will need to take both written driving test and Behind the Wheels driving test. I passed my written test and I got a permit to drive but with someone to accompany me until I pass my behind the wheels driving test.
There are many new rules that I need to learn since it is different from Indonesia and Australia, and some more the driver is on the left side here and we will need to drive on the right side of the road. It is the biggest different. Well I have to adapt.
It was the time that I need to take behind the wheels driving test and I was nervous. I always nervous when I need to do any TEST. I don’t like TEST
And I did two mistakes on the test and it might be two serious mistakes so that the examiner asked me to go back to the DMV straight away and I failed.
Well, I was so sad and my husband kept encourage me. I was still sad though but I know that I need to hang on there some of my friends encouraged me as well. When the kids came back from school, they knew that I fail on my driving test and they made my day
JJ asked me what mistake that I made and he gave me some advices how to drive better next time
While TT tried to made me smile with his funny acts.
My husband told me that it is good that I fail so that kids also can learn how to deal with failure. And I have the sample of failure that they aware that it happened to me.
On the church, one of our friend who heard about my failure in behind the wheels driving test, came to me and offer his help to accompany me practicing my driving while my husband in his office. I really appreciate it. And I always what he said to me, “Hang on there, Yulia, you can do it!”
Instead of staying in my sadness and disappointment, I choose to cheer up!
I did my second test and Thanks God, I passed. Now that I can help my husband, driving kids to school, do my own groceries, and have my MeTime
Well, this is not the first time I fail on something. I share about this because this was the recent failure that I have. Before, I faced so many failure. If I can say, my failure on my driving test is the small one. I have ever failed on relationship, on my job, on my study, etc. But I know that I should not leave in my past and have to move on. Well, I still hang on there because I am not alone. I went through my life which is up and down together with my God who give me strength and together with my husband, my kids and people surround me who always love and encourage me.
It’s okay to fail, you always can try it again. It is your choice to give up or hang on there and keep trying. Thanks God that I didn’t give up and try it again.
Trying to see on the positive side of our failures is the best thing to do.
What we can learn from our failure:
- Knowing that failure can make us be more careful and try not to do the same mistake.
- Learning how to hang on there and not give up so easily.
- Knowing that some people really there to support us.
- Failure will teach us not to give up easily.
- You are prepared to be stronger for the next problem / failures.
Please feel free to add some more points for what we can learn from our failure on the comment below.
Same for you… If you are facing any problems or you are failing on something and you feel that you are going to give up, Please Don’t! Hang on there! Keep Trying!
Quotes from my husband:
“It’s okay to fail. If you never fail, you’ll never learn”